Dear Vera,
My man and I have been dating steadily for 3 months and we've known each other for longer. We've been intimate, I chill with his friends and he hangs with mine. I've met his family (I'm going to a wedding this weekend with him for his cousin). He's told me the reason why he doesn't want to "rush" into something is because his ex destroyed him and he doesn't want to get hurt. He says he knows that when we get into a relationship it will be a long one so he's making sure? But it's driving me crazy that we are still not a couple because we are in a monogamous relationship. It's freaking me out. I trust him, but how much longer should this go on? All I want is to be his formal girlfriend. Just so I don't have to be called a friend anymore, because I feel like so much more. I want to respect his space and thoughts. I just want to know how much longer should this really take?
-postmodernsleaze-
Dear -postmodernsleaze- aka Nicole,
Doesn't want a title after 3 months? Is he just dating you, or does he not want a title with you and the 3 other HOES he has on the side? Commitment issue or two-timer?
#1 He's not destroyed. Isn't he dating you, sharing things with you emotionally, able to actually talk about his past relationships, which means to me that he has the capability to trust you enough to open up, yes? Moving on with a new girl you?
#2 Is he capable to perform sexually? Did his ex destroy his ability to f*ck you? She didn't perform a Lorena Bobbit on him, did she?
#3 What's destroyed meaning to him? Did his ex destroy his ability to work and be a decent part of society? What did she do? Entrap him with a kid cause he didn't commit ?
#4 He's not that into you! He knows your ass isn't going anywhere. You are being taken for granted.Perhaps he can think about asking you to be his girlfriend while you guys are on a break, oh wait you guys aren't a couple! Tell him what you really think and feel. If he's still not ready GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN !
<3 team veraisbeautygeek
#4 He's not that into you! He knows your ass isn't going anywhere. You are being taken for granted.Perhaps he can think about asking you to be his girlfriend while you guys are on a break, oh wait you guys aren't a couple! Tell him what you really think and feel. If he's still not ready GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN !
<3 team veraisbeautygeek
I shouldn't laugh (stifling) no really...but Vera's right - harsh but right lol
ReplyDeleteDear friend you need to read : http://themassagemogul.wordpress.com/2011/10/10/hes-just-not-into-you/
and know that life exists after you end the fake girlfriend status you have with him...give meaning to "The Power of the P"
you can do you too ;) http://mandyjbennett.blogspot.com/2011/10/shes-just-not-into-you.html
Mandy Bennett
http://mandyjbennett.blogspot.com